Rants of a stay @ home father
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
My oldest daughter is sixteen years old and for the last two years has had the same boyfriend. Overall the last two years have been relatively smooth. I am a stay at home father, who has chaperoned their relationship the entire time. My daughter and I are extremely close and communication between her and I is abundant. Her boyfriend is a good kid in general, and I hate to admit this but I actually like him. With that said, I think I may have hurt this boy.
I am strictly old, and truly believe that sometimes in life you have hurt someone in order for that someone to get with the program. If I had three sons I would fully expect to have to fight each one of them at least once. I remember bits and pieces of my dad beating my ass, because I thought I was grown and found out I was not. My problem is this boy is not my son. I swear to God if this boy was a stranger and tried to pull some of the crap he's been pulling, oh boy I'd been doing 2-3 years.
Recently he pushed the pail, and still I am unsure if he really understands how thin the ice is on which he treads. I have come to understand that I may not have to physically hurt him. The relationship with my daughter is so strong and genuine that I don't believe she could stand to be with anyone who wouldn't respect me. I really not asking for much, my goal is to give them the environment I would have wanted. I am only seventeen years older than my oldest daughter and I remember sixteen and a half........vividly. I couldn't dream of robbing any of my daughters the chance of true love. I am as conservative as I am liberal and I will always be old school.
As I began to write this blog I was unsure as to what I needed to express. Now what I am wondering is........When dealing with someones child when do start treating them like your own?
posted by Shaun White at 7:02 PM
1 Comments:
I would venture to ask what your relationship is with this boy's parents?
I guess I ask with the thought that if he spends that much time with your family and has that kind of influence on her specifically ... he should be expected to live up to the same expectations as they are.
He should also be grateful to have the environment that you are attempting to create ... however he is a kid ... and with inches given, many take miles instead.
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